An incident I experienced at school today spurred me to write this note on the causes of childhood misbehavior. Have you ever wondered why children misbehave in school?
Child psychiatrist and educator, Rudolf Dreikurs proposed that children believe they can gain social status by exhibiting bad behavior. Here are some answers that may help you recognize and address the root
of these problems. Students' misbehavior has 4 goals--Attention, Power,
Revenge & Avoidance of Failure.
Students of any age may
engage in activities that distract from the classroom goal of learning
in order to gain attention from peers or superiors
that they feel is lacking in their personal life. For some students ANY
attention is craved whether it is positive or negative. As long as they
are the center of attention, they are happy. How many adults do you
know that are like this?
Power is another goal of misbehavior.
Power or influence over peers may be gained through intimidation, peer
pressure, coercion or other negatively narcissistic methods serves to
fulfill some individuals' needs for influence over others. These folks
want to be leaders without putting in the hard work of establishing
personal relationships or leading by example.
Revenge is the
third goal of misbehavior. Someone may have done something to offend
this person, so the response whether immediate or delayed is to start a
rumor to discredit the offender or engage in physical or verbal
altercation to prove who the boss is.
Avoidance of failure is
the final goal of misbehavior. Many students haven't a clue what's going
on during class and feel they need to mask their ignorance by acting
out. As the old saying goes, "An empty bucket makes the most noise."
1 comment:
Attention seeking is present in everyone since birth. In order for a baby to get attention from their mother or father, they have to make a noise (crying) or find another way to get noticed...
Power is a sub-set of attention, because the right reaction to a person's method of getting attention can lead to this. We see this in all levels of life...
Revenge is a reaction to maybe a lack of attention from one party, or from an act of aggression. If one is not getting attention, then they'll have an "I'll show them" mentality to follow...
Avoidance of failure is possibly an anxiety reaction to what is coming to them...
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